Every so often, I open my inbox to a message that says, “Do you sell your pies?” My answer is always the same – no. In every response, I go on to explain that I will gladly make pie for anyone, I just don’t accept money. This inevitably leads to an uncomfortable exchange, with the person who wants the pie having a hard time accepting something at no cost, and me having a hard time convincing them that I LIKE to do this. From my perspective, once there is money exchanged,the fun starts to diminish and the pressure for quality and consistency increases. This is the difference between a hobby and a business.
Not only do I enjoy making pie, but I also enjoy giving it…with no strings or price tag attached. Throughout my years of giving pie, it’s become evident that people have a hard time receiving. Myself included. I’ve become interested in this dynamic because at it’s core, this is such an important exercise to practice – being able to give and receive with no expectations. Particularly the receiving part.
This phenomenon has been alive and well at work as holiday gifts have begun to show up on desks around the office. As soon as someone receives a small holiday gift, they immediately feel bad that they didn’t give something to that person and begin to wonder if they should give them a gift in return. A gesture that was meant to spread good will turns into a moment of holiday stress as people begin to overthink motives and see gift-giving as eye-for-an-eye. The simple act of giving gets hijacked with both the giver and the recipient feeling awkward, and the feelings of happiness and kindness become a footnote.
Receiving gratefully is going to be my work in the New Year. It’s just as important as giving selflessly. The two go hand in hand and when they are both present, it’s a truly remarkable experience.
My wish for all of us this holiday season is that we might give selflessly and receive gratefully, replacing stress and anxiety with kindness and gratitude.
Back to the pie…
You know what also helps with stress and anxiety? Pie.
I usually stay away from recipes that have more than two words in the title. Same goes for ice cream flavors. The more words, the more complicated I presume it will be. However, this recipe is an exception. Every word matters and makes this my new favorite holiday pie treat. The pear and cranberry get warmed up with fresh grated ginger root, and the gingersnap crumble topping is the perfect finishing touch. These pie cups are great for gifts and gatherings!